Setting intentions is the very best way to get your thoughts together, create an action plan and make life work for you.
Setting intentions can sometimes be compared to daydreaming. What does your perfect life look like? How can you achieve that vision?
According to my moon guru, “Where do you wish you were right this moment? What is your dream destination? One of the things listed in my perfect day is waking up to the light coming in my window, and the sound of the ocean outside. Getting up and sitting on a porch with a warm cup of coffee or tea, listening to the waves and the calming motion of the water. What does your dream day look like? How can the universe get you there if you haven’t proclaimed it? Spend some time today writing out your dream day in specific detail. Aries new moon acts as the beginning of the zodiacal year with Aries being the beginning of the signs of the zodiac. Consider this a fresh start for 2018 and get clear on how you can move forward towards your dreams. Let’s manifest.”
What’s better than day dreaming?
Ummm…actually getting to do what you dream about.
This past weekend I had the luxury of leaving the kiddos behind and driving into the Ozarks with my husband (partner in crime, bestie, whatever you want to call him) and some good friends. (If you’ve never been to Big Cedar Lodge, I HIGHLY recommend it. It’s perfect for a couples weekend away or a family trip).
And during that time, I was able to clear my mind. Relieve the stress and just jump off the grid. It was fabulous. I was also able to clear my mind and focus on my goals and intentions–to set up a map, will you, to guide me through this next phase.
We ALL need days like that. Seasons come and go, so don’t put off these days until tomorrow.
Sit down and write your dream day. MANIFEST it into your life. Meanwhile, here are some pictures of me enjoying a daydreaming weekend.
If you’ve known me for any length of time, or if you don’t know me at all, for that matter, you may have figured out a little quirk about me. I love to keep those that have chosen to love me unconditionally on their toes. ALL THE TIME.
And that my friends, is no exaggeration. I’m spontaneous, but I am not. I have horrible habits. I make terrible decisions. But, at the same time, I have fantastic habits and make fantastic decisions. I love to help wherever I am needed, I love to donate time, talent and treasure to organizations that are dear to my heart. I am literally all over the place.
And for YEARS I battled with this. “Be the person you’re supposed to be.” “Set goals to accomplish success.” “Just behave.”
Oh those phrases drove me crazy. I went to school to become an advertising extraordinaire. Five years into my career, I was miserable and had an unbelievable calling to be in the classroom.
So, I went to get my Masters and I became a teacher.
And I was there for almost 8 years–but then found myself miserable again. I mean– a deep, dark misery that stemmed from events completely out of my control. But as each event occurred, I found myself spiraling out of control into a place I didn’t want to be.
When you get into your headspace, really get into it, you realize that there is really only one shot at this life, and it really isn’t necessary to be miserable in your choices. So I made a conscious decision to find my new happy. To follow my joy.
Is that path easy? Absolutely not. It has twists, turns, bumps and dark places. It includes learning to live in a way that you have never lived before. New habits, new schedules, new everything. And it is overwhelming at times.
Why do I write all this for the world to read? Because, I want you to know that you are not alone. EVER. There is somebody, somewhere going through a very similar journey as you.
And most importantly, maybe you’re approaching a crossroads that is frightening and you are terrified to choose the wrong path. Just know this:
“Other people’s opinions are none of your business.”
Yep. IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what others think of you. Because YOU DO YOU, good/bad/everything in between.
I don’t strive to be perfect anymore. I own up to my mistakes, I own up to my successes. I own up to my life. I strive to be imperfect — I’m perfect.
The best decision I have made in this turbulent year or so has been to join the oil community. It’s so much more than products. It’s a group of individuals that have come from every walk of life and joined together under one common passion: essential oils.
Sleep. Wellness promotion. You name it, there’s an oil for that. And a community that is so happy to walk you through the journey. If you are the least bit interested in what these can do for you, I encourage you to visit The Oily Life and join us (links are provided to get started). If oils aren’t your thing–still check it out, you will be surprised how versatile oils are for EVERYONE.
And I’m finding my happy. I want the same for you. If all you get from reading this stream of thought is that you are not alone, then I will be happy for you. Because you are not.
This morning was a doozie. It started off somewhat calm, and normal, but quickly escalated into something that made me turn into Mama Monster, which then made me have extreme Mama Guilt for the rest of the morning.
I got hit with Mickey Mouse because no jackets fit (mind you, he was WEARING a fleece-so, yeah kid, your jackets aren’t going to fit over that). A temper tantrum then pursued–and all threats of discipline fell on deaf ears.
Of course, I’m thinking the entire time I’m throwing these threats around that this will actually punish ME more than HIM because I will be at home alone with him this afternoon and evening. Insert the beginning of Mama Guilt.
But the doozie wasn’t any of those things. The doozie was, when my little five year old was getting out of the car, I told him I loved him, as I do every morning. And you know what he did? He looked at me and said nothing. He said nothing! The door closed behind him and tears welled up in my eyes.
He didn’t say I love you back.
Talk about a Mama feeling like a failure moment.
When I was in my twenties and even when the hubby and I decided it was time to grow our family, no one could have told me how to prepare for these kinds of moments. No advice, no opinions, no experience could have prepared my heart for the hurt that moments like this fill in your mind, body and soul.
There are lots of moments like this–and I know there will be many more. I mean, I’m only just beginning.
So, here’s the thing.
I’ve been that mama that has left a cart in the store and carried a screaming child out. I have been that mama that has sat at iHop (because my little boy loves iHop and I was trying to treat him) crying into my pancakes, putting all the food (untouched) in to-go boxes and carrying two (TWO) screaming children out. I have stood in our church vestibule with two children crawling over my feet, misbehaving — at CHURCH–with no words to say to them. Only tears would come and only tears streamed down my cheeks. I have packed up literally EVERY SINGLE TOY in the play room and locked them in the attic.
I have felt like a failure.
Why do I write all of this?
Well, because I KNOW I am not alone. Because in all of those moments – something has occurred to show me I’m not alone. And I write this because, these words might just be what some Mama needs to read today. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
I have had a store employee walk quietly behind me and tell me not to worry about the cart–to take a deep breath and do whatever I needed to do to calm the crazy monster. I have had a family at the next table attempt to entertain my crazy monsters while a waitress helps me to box up the untouched food. I have had women walk up to me and simply HUG me–no words, just a hug–while tears are streaming down my face. I have had people walk calmly behind me and help me to pack up all the toys and place them in the attic.
And I KNOW why they do it. Because they’ve been there. They KNOW no words are going to help at that moment. They KNOW no advice, no opinions, nothing–but quiet action–are going to help settle your heart in that moment.
So hang on Mama. Tomorrow is a new day. And the little monsters may have decided to be tyrants this morning, and maybe into the evening…but the little monsters will also give you BIG KISSES, lay heads on your shoulder, tell you sweet dreams, because YOU are their Mama. And, no matter what they say or do, they LOVE YOU.
2 Drops Geranium, 3 Drops Grapefruit, 1 Drop Lime.
According to Reference Guide for EOs:
Geranium Properties can be antidepressant and a relaxant.
Grapefruit Properties can be antidepressant and a stimulant.
Lime can be restorative (and come on, just smells oh so good).
Lift your spirits with essential oils and find the rest of the day fall into place. I also apply topically to my heart, Joy – when inhaled brings back memories of being loved and cherished. I apply topically to my wrists and neck, Stress Away -which is a blend formulated to help relieve everyday stresses and tensions so you can live a healthier and happier life, and finally, I apply Progessence Plus to my upper arms because, let’s be honest, maybe sometimes the fault of tension does not lie on the Little Monsters, but instead, on Mama’s hormones.
Are you like me and sometimes think–what’s Good about this Friday? Why is it called that?
Because today is the day our Savior was taken to the cross, and put to death. What’s good about that?!? I’ll tell you what’s good. HIM. He knew what was to come and He did it anyway. He laid down His life for you and me–and y’all…That’s better than good. That’s AMAZING.
So today, on one of the most holy days available to us, reflect on yourself. What are you doing? How are you living? Lay it down and be JOYOUS. For, though the event was tragic, the results were miraculous.
Here is an amazing video I saw this morning–it brought tears to my eyes. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.