Be You.

If you’re not feeling vibrant, energized, glowing, happy and healthy in every fiber of your being, something is wrong.

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Very wrong. Because we all deserve to feel our very best each and every day. We all should strive to be the very best-versions-of-ourselves every. single. day.

Furthermore–if you’re not feeling your best and you find yourself comparing yourself to others, stop. There is only one you–and YOU should be YOU. Not Jenny from the block. Nope. Just You.

Despite the fact that we all constantly feel some form of stress, fatigue, that we’re not the right weight, that we don’t do our jobs the best way, blah, blah, blah…they are not a normal feelings and we should never accept them as normal feelings.

Put your health first and get honest about what needs to change so that you can always feel amazing. So that you can always strive to be the best-version-of-yourself.

An easy way to start feeling amazing, is to eliminate products that have been exposing you to chemicals and toxins. In this article, studies have shown that those cleaning products that you buy off the shelf have been found to be just as impactful on your health as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. Those candles you love? Same thing.

But guess what? You can make a huge difference and feel your health soar simply by choosing to become a member to Young Living. YL provides alternatives to candles, cleaning products, bath and body products, makeup, supplements…you name it. And you can feel confident in using Young Living products because of the Seed to Seal guarantee.

So you do you–and you do what is necessary to feel amazing.

I’ll do me and what is necessary to feel amazing. AND, if you want to join me in ditching and switching to Young Living products, click here and select “Member.” Choose the starter kit you think is best for your household–contact me if you need help deciding which is best for you. I will in turn help you learn all the amazing things about Young Living products and introduce you to an amazing oil community. Win!

XOXO.

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3 drops Idaho Blue Spruce

3 drops Geranium

3 drops Grapefruit

3 drops Orange

 

You can also put Lemon Myrtle and Jasmine in the diffuser for a great, uplifting smell.

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If you’ve known me for any length of time, or if you don’t know me at all, for that matter, you may have figured out a little quirk about me. I love to keep those that have chosen to love me unconditionally on their toes. ALL THE TIME.

And that my friends, is no exaggeration. I’m spontaneous, but I am not. I have horrible habits. I make terrible decisions. But, at the same time, I have fantastic habits and make fantastic decisions. I love to help wherever I am needed, I love to donate time, talent and treasure to organizations that are dear to my heart. I am literally all over the place.

And for YEARS I battled with this. “Be the person you’re supposed to be.” “Set goals to accomplish success.” “Just behave.”

Oh those phrases drove me crazy. I went to school to become an advertising extraordinaire. Five years into my career, I was miserable and had an unbelievable calling to be in the classroom.

So, I went to get my Masters and I became a teacher.

And I was there for almost 8 years–but then found myself miserable again. I mean– a deep, dark misery that stemmed from events completely out of my control. But as each event occurred, I found myself spiraling out of control into a place I didn’t want to be.

When you get into your headspace, really get into it, you realize that there is really only one shot at this life, and it really isn’t necessary to be miserable in your choices. So I made a conscious decision to find my new happy. To follow my joy.

Is that path easy? Absolutely not. It has twists, turns, bumps and dark places. It includes learning to live in a way that you have never lived before. New habits, new schedules, new everything. And it is overwhelming at times.

Why do I write all this for the world to read? Because, I want you to know that you are not alone. EVER. There is somebody, somewhere going through a very similar journey as you.

And most importantly, maybe you’re approaching a crossroads that is frightening and you are terrified to choose the wrong path. Just know this:

“Other people’s opinions are none of your business.”

I recently read “Girl, Wash Your Face-Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Are Meant to Be” by Rachel Hollis. It has been very eye opening to say the least. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it.

Yep. IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what others think of you. Because YOU DO YOU, good/bad/everything in between.

I don’t strive to be perfect anymore. I own up to my mistakes, I own up to my successes. I own up to my life. I strive to be imperfect — I’m perfect.

The best decision I have made in this turbulent year or so has been to join the oil community. It’s so much more than products. It’s a group of individuals that have come from every walk of life and joined together under one common passion: essential oils.

Sleep. Wellness promotion. You name it, there’s an oil for that. And a community that is so happy to walk you through the journey. If you are the least bit interested in what these can do for you, I encourage you to visit The Oily Life and join us (links are provided to get started). If oils aren’t your thing–still check it out, you will be surprised how versatile oils are for EVERYONE.

And I’m finding my happy. I want the same for you. If all you get from reading this stream of thought is that you are not alone, then I will be happy for you. Because you are not.

Let’s be perfectly imperfect together.

 

40 Days – Day 39

How are YOU living?

So today is Good Friday.

Are you like me and sometimes think–what’s Good about this Friday? Why is it called that?

Because today is the day our Savior was taken to the cross, and put to death. What’s good about that?!? I’ll tell you what’s good. HIM. He knew what was to come and He did it anyway. He laid down His life for you and me–and y’all…That’s better than good. That’s AMAZING.

So today, on one of the most holy days available to us, reflect on yourself. What are you doing? How are you living? Lay it down and be JOYOUS. For, though the event was tragic, the results were miraculous.

Here is an amazing video I saw this morning–it brought tears to my eyes. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

XOXO.

40 Days – Day 38

Pay attention to the small things. They could actually be really big things that you can’t even fathom.

Today is Holy Thursday–and Matthew Kelly brings up a REALLY good point. The disciples have a meal with Jesus, much like they do every other evening. BUT–this night is different, very different. Did they know that this was a big deal? That this ordinary event that they experienced daily would actually turn into one of the most famous events of all time?

Because that is what extraordinary things are–they are ordinary events/actions that become something so much bigger.

God loves ordinary things. Matthew Kelly says “I wonder what the disciples were thinking that Thursday morning. You know, did they just think it was another Thursday? Did they just think it was another Passover?

We’ve been talking a lot about awareness, you know, as we made our journey through Lent. I wonder what sort of awareness the disciples had. They spent three years of their lives with Jesus. They probably had dinner with him every night. Did they know this night was different? Did they know this night was special? And when he broke the bread, said the blessing, shared the wine—what kind of awareness did they have about what was happening? Did they realize they were at one of the most pivotal moments in history? Did they realize they were at the most important meal in the history of the world?

Probably not.

I guess the point is that we can wander through life half asleep. We can wander through life unconscious of a lot of really, really, really important things. And God’s constantly trying to wake us up.

And so, as we enter into these very, very sacred days, I think God’s probably trying to do the same thing to us. He’s probably trying to give us a little shake and say, “Wake up. Pay attention. This is important.” And if we do, I think, he always richly rewards us.”

You know what one of the biggest causes of us walking through life half asleep–half unconscious of our surroundings…is the fact that we are not truly HAPPY. That we are in fact, UNHAPPY.

UNHAPPY is not the same as depressed. UNHAPPY is not the same as experiencing a mind-numbing, life changing grief. UNHAPPY is something you have unintentionally conditioned your mind, body and soul to believe is true, right, and the way it should be.

You wake up every morning and go to a job that doesn’t make you smile. You run the same errands and attend the same groups/clubs, etc. And you convince yourself that this is good and that you are HAPPY.

But then think about how you feel when you are in a place that genuinely brings joy to your heart. Think about how light you feel and how it is hard to take that smile off your face. THAT, my friends, is HAPPY.

So wake up. Not just today, but everyday. FIND your happy, follow your JOY. Don’t convince yourself that you are too busy to take care of yourself. Because God (or the Universe or the guiding spirit, or however you want to refer to this super power that is all good and all knowing), wants YOU to be HAPPY in the ordinary things. When you’re happy in the ordinary things, extraordinary things happen.

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He told me, “Mom, I’m too busy” and told his brother to not disturb him because “he’s too busy.” That’s fine little one, as long as you’re finding pure JOY in your business. 

 

Much love and blessings to you today and every day.

XOXO

40 Days – Day 23

Anger/Temper/Frustration.

This is something we have a huge issue with at my house. We are all hot heads (well, everyone but Tyson, because he’s just awesome). We all too often react to situations rather than take a step back and let the moment sink in.

Today’s message is about just THAT. Are we really striving to become the best-version-of-ourselves when we are being reactive rather than responsive? There is a huge difference.

I think there’s a real distinction between responding and reacting, you know? And of course, animals react. Something happens to an animal and an animal just reacts, because animals are not responsible. What does that mean? They’re not response-able. They’re not capable of response. They’re not able to respond. The way they’re made, the way they were created . . . They react. Whereas human beings . . . We’re responsible. We’re response-able. We’re able to respond. We’re capable of response. But very often we just react to things.” -Matthew Kelly

Take that in. Really read those words. Are YOU reactive or responsive? One of my goals this Lent is to become more respond-able and less reactive. Encourage my boys to take a step back and think through situations before I just BLOW up at them. Learning to respond helps you to grow in virtue and character, helps you to become the best-version-of-yourself.

And if you’re sitting there thinking to yourself as you’re reading this, “there is no way. I’ve just been hard wired with a short fuse.” Remember this: People don’t have bad tempers; they have badly trained tempers. And you CAN train your brain new tricks.

Become a master of your temper. When things do not go as you would like them to, pause before reacting. Breathe deeply. Remind yourself that in the grand scheme of human history, this is just one moment. And walk away from the situation to collect yourself if necessary. Remember–to live in the PRESENT.

Repeat this 30 times a day if you have to. But grow. You’ll be so happy you did. “Jesus, let me be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not work the righteousness of God. (James 1:19–20)”

Day 23: JOY and GRATITUDE

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Since as long as I can remember, I have been obsessed with all things astrology/numerology/card readings, etc. I think the obsession began with the song by 5th Dimension “Age of Aquarius.” (My mother was a product of the 60s/70s so I got to listen to all that starting at a very early age). I am an aquarius and I was obsessed with the fact that they made a whole song about it. So of course (because I love to learn), I dove in to learn all about aquarius.

I have a tendency to go in and out of my studies of these things, for various reasons. When I was younger it was because people actually told me it was close to witchcraft (gasp). When I became older, it was because I had to prioritize what I was doing, and often that study just fell to the wayside. But I’ve always been fascinated.

So, I really find joy in these studies. And I truly believe this is not witchcraft or going against God. In fact, I think it is the complete opposite. I think it is a way to connect to the Universe He created and helping to decipher his ultimate plans for me.

On Saturday, March 17 we will be going through a new moon. The new moon affords us a time to bring balance to our entire system: body, mind and spirit. During the new moon phase, we are able to see more clearly–and to find areas that are off balance and to set intentions for where we want to be. BALANCE.

In “A Workbook By Spirit Daughter” the new moon is discussed. This particular new moon is in Pisces. Pisces is pure bliss. She flows through the rhythm of life and can teach us how to do the same. This season is a time to align with her boundless energy and realize that YOU are boundless.

It’s time to receive what you are set to receive. The key to receiving is LETTING GO. Let go of the negative energy that is holding you back and open your heart to what your DREAMS are–and get those dreams!!

If you are even somewhat interested in the moon, its phases and how it can affect your energies, I highly encourage you to check out shopmyhrr.com.

This week, in preparation for the new moon, complete the following tasks:

Ask yourself:

  1. Where can you let go of control?
  2. In what situations can you become the observer instead of the doer?
  3. When do you feel the most calm? How can you cultivate that feeling in more situations?
  4. What wounds have become, or will become, your greatest power?
  5. What is your dream? Think about it –and create a scene in your mind. What would you be doing RIGHT NOW if your dream was to come to fruition? No limits, as much detail as possible.
  6. Plant your intentions. Write them in present tense “I am a successful entrepreneur,” “My son is healthy, happy and confident,” etc.

Be authentically you–and the Universe will put everything else into place.

40 Days – Day 22

The myth of happiness.

So the great myth of our day and age is that if we do anything we want, we will find that perfect path to happiness. Guess what? As evidenced by the pure anger, hate and vitriol we witness day in and day out in our society, we know that doing whatever we want is not leading us to a road of happiness.

Think about it. If you are out trolling social media and blogs and spouting negative energy–are you TRULY happy with yourself? Or, is there something deep down, that is telling you that just wasn’t the right thing to say–and you may have truly hurt someone by saying it.

Live your life with an open mind and an open heart.  It is said that the influence of the moon will affect your life whether you believe in it or not, but true manifestation comes from believing in what is not known and having faith. And to truly believe what is not known and have true, unadulterated faith, you need discipline.

And it’s not just formal discipline. It’s also routine. Like, don’t leave the house without saying “I love you.” Don’t let your boys go without a hug and kiss (while they’re still young enough to let you do such a thing).

God wants absolute, pure joy for you. How mind blowing is that?!?!? That there is someone out there that only wants PURE JOY for you. And ok, maybe you don’t think it’s God. Maybe you think it’s a Universal Idea. But it’s there. There is no denying that. You manifest this powerful energy into your life by using discipline. Discipline to pray, to meditate, to follow routines…and then your happiness follows.

Just the thought of that powers me up BIG TIME.

So don’t say “I can’t.” Or “I don’t believe” (because we’ve already discussed that whole believing concept). Just put your mind to it and go.

Start with baby steps. Prioritize your areas of discipline with what needs the most work (#1 on the list) and what needs the least work (last on the list). Then set out your means to accomplish these disciplines.

The Universe is an awesomely, amazing place, and it (and He) wants NOTHING more than you to be completely happy.

Day 22: JOY and GRATITUDE

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You know, you can have all the joy in the world, but if you aren’t thankful for what you have, it can backfire on you. Jen Sincero (of the “You are a BadAss” series) gives a great example of this. Think about a group of kiddos hard at play. You bake them cookies. Some of the kiddos inhale the cookies so fast, it’s hard for you to believe they have even registered that they have eaten them. No thanks, just back off to play. Then the next set of kiddos eat the cookies, may even give you a thanks, but then return to their play. But there is ALWAYS that one kid. The one that stays behind, and not only tells you thank you, but then offers to help you clean up after his friends.

You know where that kid gets with his gratitude? A WHOLE LOT FURTHER than those other kids. I can tell you, as a parent and a former teacher, that it is a lot easier to help those that are appreciative of your efforts than those that don’t show it, or are not appreciative of it at all. Yes, that kid DOES get the biggest piece of cake. Or the first turn on a fabulous new toy. Because he is THANKFUL for it.

 

40 Days – Day 21

LIVE what YOU believe.

Sit down. Write your affirmations–center those affirmations around what you believe. Then put those affirmations EVERYWHERE. Your mirrors, your car, your desk at work, your kitchen. Put them where you can see them all day, every day.

We ALL have beliefs. We ALL believe in things. One might say “well, an atheist doesn’t believe in God.” Right, he doesn’t. But he BELIEVES that there is no God. And so, as Matthew Kelly kindly points out today, there is belief in EVERYTHING. And we ALL have them.

“What creates the split in us, what creates the divided life that we’ve been talking about and reading about in Perfectly Yourself, is when we start to live separate from our beliefs. When we separate our actions from our beliefs, it’s a recipe for disaster. When we separate our actions from what we believe, it’s a recipe for unhappiness. It’s a recipe for misery in many, many different forms.

And so the great challenge of our day to day living is to align those beliefs with our actions. Don’t believe one thing and then do something entirely different. That divides you–and you are striving to become that authentic, best-version-of-yourself.

So, today, sit down and write out your beliefs (I did a lot of them yesterday, so yippee, I’m a step ahead!). Then create affirmations to force you into action to LIVE those beliefs. Also, take the time to pray or meditate specifically on these beliefs. Train your mind to act on them. You’ll be oh so happy you did!

DAY 21: JOY and GRATITUDE

Oh how I love Fridays! I work hours and hours Monday-Thursday so I can set Friday aside to do things I love to do. Today, I’m giving my safe haven (my back deck) a bit of a makeover. This is my favorite place in the world. I’m sitting high in the trees, with the view of Chenal Valley (for those of you that don’t know–it is a gorgeous area of my city that is still plentiful in forests and wildlife). I grab a book or a devotional and I just relax. But, it is in dire need of some TLC, so today, I’m going to do that. And that just makes me giddy.

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I also love Fridays because I get to go to church with my J Man. I love starting my day with him snuggling up to me and listening to Monsignor address all the precious hearts at J’s school. It just brings a huge smile to my face.

I ALSO love Fridays because I go and pick up J Man early and we do things just the two of us. It is OUR time. His little brother is so demanding, that J sometimes unintentionally gets overlooked. So I love that the two of us have this time together. Where is is the CENTER of my attention. You can see his joy in his eyes and smile. And I love that. I’m so thankful I can give him that joy. Makes this mama heart so very happy.