If you’ve known me for any length of time, or if you don’t know me at all, for that matter, you may have figured out a little quirk about me. I love to keep those that have chosen to love me unconditionally on their toes. ALL THE TIME.

And that my friends, is no exaggeration. I’m spontaneous, but I am not. I have horrible habits. I make terrible decisions. But, at the same time, I have fantastic habits and make fantastic decisions. I love to help wherever I am needed, I love to donate time, talent and treasure to organizations that are dear to my heart. I am literally all over the place.

And for YEARS I battled with this. “Be the person you’re supposed to be.” “Set goals to accomplish success.” “Just behave.”

Oh those phrases drove me crazy. I went to school to become an advertising extraordinaire. Five years into my career, I was miserable and had an unbelievable calling to be in the classroom.

So, I went to get my Masters and I became a teacher.

And I was there for almost 8 years–but then found myself miserable again. I mean– a deep, dark misery that stemmed from events completely out of my control. But as each event occurred, I found myself spiraling out of control into a place I didn’t want to be.

When you get into your headspace, really get into it, you realize that there is really only one shot at this life, and it really isn’t necessary to be miserable in your choices. So I made a conscious decision to find my new happy. To follow my joy.

Is that path easy? Absolutely not. It has twists, turns, bumps and dark places. It includes learning to live in a way that you have never lived before. New habits, new schedules, new everything. And it is overwhelming at times.

Why do I write all this for the world to read? Because, I want you to know that you are not alone. EVER. There is somebody, somewhere going through a very similar journey as you.

And most importantly, maybe you’re approaching a crossroads that is frightening and you are terrified to choose the wrong path. Just know this:

“Other people’s opinions are none of your business.”

I recently read “Girl, Wash Your Face-Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Are Meant to Be” by Rachel Hollis. It has been very eye opening to say the least. If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it.

Yep. IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what others think of you. Because YOU DO YOU, good/bad/everything in between.

I don’t strive to be perfect anymore. I own up to my mistakes, I own up to my successes. I own up to my life. I strive to be imperfect — I’m perfect.

The best decision I have made in this turbulent year or so has been to join the oil community. It’s so much more than products. It’s a group of individuals that have come from every walk of life and joined together under one common passion: essential oils.

Sleep. Wellness promotion. You name it, there’s an oil for that. And a community that is so happy to walk you through the journey. If you are the least bit interested in what these can do for you, I encourage you to visit The Oily Life and join us (links are provided to get started). If oils aren’t your thing–still check it out, you will be surprised how versatile oils are for EVERYONE.

And I’m finding my happy. I want the same for you. If all you get from reading this stream of thought is that you are not alone, then I will be happy for you. Because you are not.

Let’s be perfectly imperfect together.


40 Days – Day 17

Find your passion.

If you could do ANYTHING, what would you do? Would you sell your house, by an RV and travel to all the sporting events you wanted to attend (because that is certainly what my husband would say). Would you sell your house, load up all your belongings in a storage unit and live the nomad lifestyle–traveling from place to place, living, learning, loving? Would you dedicate all your time to that non-profit that pulls on your heart strings?

A lot of us never REALLY think about what we would do, because we believe it is simple not possible to achieve. But guess what? This great big, awesome universe has great plans for you. He has great plans for you.

So start with this:

  1. Give yourself 5-10 minutes and really think about what you want to do. Make a list about things you’re passionate about. FIND YOUR PASSION.
  2. Ask yourself questions like this:
    1. What energizes you?
    2. If you could do anything with the rest of your life, what would that look like?
    3. What do you do that time passes by very quickly?

Matthew Kelly tells us to find our passion today. Become a better-version-of-yourself. MANIFEST what you want.

FOCUS: Who is God calling you to become? The secret is finding what you are well suited for.

ACT: Take a few minutes and make a list of your passions. Write everything down—anything that excites you, anything that energizes you. Just write it all down.

An added side note to you today. You have found yourself on my blog and you’re thinking, I’m not interested in all that spiritual stuff. Or…I’m not Catholic…or I’m not Christian…or I don’t believe in any of that. Guess what? That’s OK. One of my challenges during this Lent is to post every day about becoming the best-version-of-myself, and I truly believe, that whether you have the same faith as me or not, that you can certainly benefit from these lessons as well. Most of the time, this blog will truly be about kids, oils–and then repeat. Because THAT is what I am passionate about.


I want to stand from the mountain tops and share with the world my kids and my love for Young Living essential oils.

Because, you know what? This world out here in internet land can lead you to believe that EVERYONE else has it perfect. That EVERYONE else has it figured out. And guess what? EVERYONE else does NOT have it figured out nor are they perfect.

And I’m here to show you just THAT. I’m raising Little Monsters. There is definitely never a dull moment here in RaffsLittleWorld, but there are definitely frustrating times and there are definitely joy filled times. And I’m okay with that. Do I have tips to save the world? Absolutely not. But can I show you that you are not alone in your frustrations, your slip ups, your not so perfect moments? Absolutely.

I can also show you how incorporating essential oils in your routine can improve your lifestyle.

So I hope you are enjoying these posts. It’s been awfully quiet, so I am really ready to get some feedback about what you think. Let today be the day you comment! Tell me about yourself.

Til tomorrow–


A Week in Review

At times we don’t invite God into an area of our life because it’s too human. This Sunday’s Gospel gives us the reassurance that Jesus is right there. He’s right there. He gets it. And now is the time to invite him in. This week’s gospel (John 2:13–25) reveals distrust, anger, completely human emotions. THAT reveals traits of us all. And Jesus is there, waiting for us to bring him into an area(s) of our life(ves).

Bowling Fun!
See my “phone!” (This is what he’d rather do than bowl)
Some amazing Spring inspired diffuser blends with Spring coming just around the corner.
Love your body. Greens, Ningxia Red, Thieves and Kombucha are great places to start.
So…when you have two small boys, Stain Remover is a must. This recipe calls for 1/4 c. Castile Soap, 1 cup hydrogen peroxide, 1 capful of Thieves Cleaner, 5 drops of Lemon essential oil and 5 drops of Thieves essential oil.
When everything starts to blossom, we also welcome sniffles. This trio helps keep those sniffles at bay (20 drops each of Lemon, Lavender, Peppermint, top with carrier oil of your choice)
Puffy eyes? Grab some cotton rounds, a few drops of Witch Hazel, a few drops of Lavender and about 1/8 cup of distilled water. Dip the rounds in the water mixture, wring them out and place flat in the freezer for about five minutes. Take them out of the freezer, lay over eyes and keep them there for about 10-15 minutes. This would be a great time to do your meditation, too!
The moon sends all kinds of energy to us. Here are some great diffuser recipes to embrace the power of the moon and get our heads in the right place to accept the energy it sends our way.
My house can be clean ALL day and he can undo all of that in a matter of SECONDS.
Results of Stain Remover. I never have understood why they give little boys white uniform shirts?!?!?
Young Living isn’t just oils. It offers a full line of skin care and makeup. And I LOVE the way it feels on my skin!
Because I’m raising Little Monsters…this Mama needs all the Stress Away, all the time.
Because I couldn’t make him fly.
Gift basket I’m donating to my son’s school auction night. It’s called the “Mama Bear Basket.”  All the Ningxia products (because all mamas need energy), Stress Away, Joy, and Gratitude essential oils (because, well, being a mama is full of stress, joy and gratitude–am I right?). Two Mama Bear cups (great for poolside beverages that need to remain inconspicuous ;)…) and a package of Seedlings baby wipes (for all the messes).
The Young Living Vitality line is deemed GRAS (generally regarded as safe) for consumption. Add a drop or two of Lime to your guacamole and be ready for all the YUMMY.
Just another night in Raffsworld.
There is never a dull moment…
Thursday night’s full moon. Perfect view from my living room.
Spring Cleaning — Deck gets a makeover. This is after being power washed. After pics to come next Sunday.
Got the boys early from school on Friday because it was a GORGEOUS day. We called it our Mommy/Sons Date Day. We went to a local park called Two Rivers and walked all over the forest looking for bears and opossums.
And…watching the boats on the Arkansas river. And throwing things, like Mommy’s sunglasses, into the river…
Looking for 4 leaf clovers…
Needed a break I guess…


That face.
and that one.
The laughter did this mama heart good.
After looking at this picture, I immediately went out to order Boswellia Wrinkle Cream. I didn’t pay a penny for it–used my Essential Rewards points and some account credit. Because–where did those wrinkles come from?!?!


My life. It has its ups and downs, but I wouldn’t trade these particular moments (like this picture) for anything.
Next stop–frozen yogurt!


This is Clay’s version of Charlie Brown’s Pig Pen

The All New Young Living Premium Starter Kit

Moms need oils. Dads need oils. Kids need oils. Even our furbabies need oils. So, stop delaying. This brand new Premium Starter Kit is worth every penny.

Let’s break this down:

Lavender: This is the most versatile oil out there. Use it for relaxation, seasonal support, all things skin, all things sleep. You will fall in love.

Lemon: Amazing for cleaning (stains, Sharpies, you know…whatever shows up in your house because you’re Raising Little Monsters), uplifting your spirit when it is feeling down, detoxing your body from things you put in your body.

Copaiba: This gem is soothing and amazing to help soothe aches and pains. This oil can also be used to enhance other oils and their effects on your system.

Peppermint: This can cool off an overheated body, supports your tummy, and is amazing at opening airways when those seasonal sniffles have gotten you.

Frankincense: you know the old adage “it was good enough for Baby Jesus.” Because yep, it’s amazing. Liquid gold. Provides grounding, wrinkles hate it, and promotes overall wellbeing. Who wouldn’t want Frank in their lives?!?!

Panaway: Supports your muscles and joints (for those days that you take your boys to the park and wind up carrying the two year old for over a mile and a half…), tames tension and provides soothing.

Thieves: Immunity booster, cleansing for your systems, promotes overall wellness. WIN. WIN. WIN.

Stress Away: just like the label says. Every mama/daddy needs this oil in their arsenal. Every teacher needs this oil in their arsenal. This is a must have. And it comes in the Premium Starter Kit! (it also comes in the Ningxia Red Starter Kit and the Basic Starter Kit).

Citrus Fresh: *NEW* Use for purifying, promoting happy emotions and support your immunity. I’m diffusing this as a type with Blue Tansy and it smells heavenly.

Raven: *NEW* all things respiratory. ALL THINGS.

Thieves Cleaner Packet: *NEW* THIS IS THE BEST CLEANER EVER. And…it’s toxic free. You don’t get a headache or dried skin when using this baby. It’s amazing.

Ningxia Red 2 ounce Packets (2): Every mama needs all the energy. This will do it. Full of antioxidants it also boosts immunity and provides overall support to all the systems.

NOW AVAILABLE AS A DIFFUSER OPTION: The Desert Mist Diffuser. This guy can run up to 10 hours. Has different light options and is oh so beautiful. I hoard this gem in my bedroom. Because you know, I was noticing that I would wake up when my DewDrop shut off after four hours. Now I don’t wake up. Because the Desert Mist is still running when I wake up. Cue angels rejoicing: AHHHHHHH!

The time is now to get started. You won’t regret it. Message me or comment here and we’ll get you rocking and rolling!

Hope you’re having an amazing Saturday!


40 Days – Day 16

Find meaning in your everyday living.

Work. We all work A LOT. If you start right out of college and work 40 hour weeks until you retire at 65, you will have worked apx. 86,400 hours. That’s a lot of your time. But like Matthew Kelly talked about yesterday, we have to work. And we have to find fulfillment in our work.

Today, he talks about find meaning in your work. So you’re going to work. Human nature demands that you do work. That you find fulfillment in your life. How do you make your work meaningful? Well easy answers would be become a teacher and help someone become the best version of themselves. Become a doctor and help someone heal. But what about all those other jobs in between? Not all of us can be teachers or doctors. So, if you are a fast food worker, smile and wish everyone a happy day. You could literally be saving a life by just smiling at a stranger. As a financial adviser, sit down and truly work with your clients. Show them you truly care about them and their situation.

Bring meaning to your work. Turn it into prayer. Say, “I will work this hour in prayers for my mother and her joy.” The next hour, say “I will work this hour in prayer for my children, that they remain safe, healthy and free from disease.” So on…

Life is prayer.

Transform your everyday moments to prayer. I will clean and put away these dishes in prayer of gratitude for having a roof over my head.

Find intention. Be purposeful. You will find very quickly that intention and purpose can elevate your work.

Today’s focus is this: Find something that you consider worthy of your talent and character, and give yourself to it.

Today’s call to action is: Let God guide you in the pursuit of your dreams. Ask him, “God, what do you think I should do?”

If you’d like, I’d love to hear what you have done today. Come back and comment here and let’s open up a chat. Because community is so important, too.



Kids. Oils. Repeat. This is my life and I love every minute of it.

For 8 years I was a teacher. And for many of those years, I loved being there. But at the end of last year, I started getting a pull at my heart that I wasn’t in the right place. I wasn’t where God wanted me anymore. So, I slowed down and started listening.

Then my husband and I started talking. I wasn’t present in the lives of my children because I was struggling to keep the work separate and failing miserably. So, we decided that it was time for me to leave teaching and to bring my focus to my children, my husband, my home. And you know what happened? I grew in faith. I grew in character. And I grew in Young Living.

I am a proud independent distributor of Young Living, and I took my passion for teaching and applied it to essential oils. I love to connect and teach people how to use and then fall in love with Young Living products.

So–you’ll notice the theme of this blog–kids, oils, repeat. Because that is my intention and purpose. To be the best mother I can be to my little monsters and to bring safe, natural products to every home I possibly can.

And my little monsters bring me so much JOY and are truly my inspiration to wake up every single morning. I am so thankful God put my friend’s posts in front of me that cold December 2016 night that my kid was REFUSING to go to bed for like the 10th day in a row. Because He brought me Young Living with those posts on social media. Young Living brought me purpose in my work.

MOMMY. OILER. I’ve found meaning. And it’s glorious.

Young Living Essential Oils – Join the Journey


Yipee! Today is a two post kind of day. It’s pouring rain outside, not much to do except arts and crafts, blog and talk about all things essential oils.

Speaking of essential oils–have I got a deal for you–TODAY ONLY.

I talk a lot about my journey with essential oils and my path to wellness. It’s all things great. I’m a part of an amazing community that supports me, loves me, and loves oils. Who could ask for more? This community takes all of the guess out of essential oils. They teach you how to use and love your Young Living products.

And today–this community would love to have YOU join us. If you choose to start this journey with us (TODAY ONLY)–you will receive free shipping (we will put the cost of shipping in your PayPal or Cash account), you will receive FIVE 2 oz packets of Ningxia Red (you already get two with all Starter Kits but Savvy Minerals) to give you a full weeks worth of Ningxia and a 5mL roller bottle of carrier and Rose essential oil.

A starter kit also gets you a wholesale membership to Young Living–24% off retail cost–anytime you order Young Living!

If that’s enough, Young Living also has a monthly wellness box just for you. You get to customize it each and every month to meet your needs. And you know what? Young Living will give you Essential Rewards points to thank you for being a loyal customer. Those points turn into FREE PRODUCTS. I have literally gotten hundreds of dollars in free product by redeeming my Essential Rewards points.

To get started, click this link https://yl.pe/7fnv. Select “Member.” Select the Starter Kit you would like.

Your Starter Kit options are: Premium Starter Kit (11 of our most popular oils, a diffuser, 2- 2oz packets of Ningxia Red, samples and literature); Thieves Cleaner Kit (Thieves essential oil, Thieves Cleaner, Thieves Aromabright Toothpaste, Thieves Mouthwash, Thieves Hand Purification, Thieves Foaming Handsoap, Thieves Spray, Samples and literature); Ningxia Red (2 pk Ningxia Red, 30 Ningxia Red Singles, Ningxia Nitro, Stress Away essential oil, samples and literature); Slique Kit-weight management and nutritional support (Slique Tea, 4 boxes Slique Bars, 5 packs Slique Gum, 2 boxes Citraslim, 2 boxes Slique Shake, 1 Slique Essence, Stress Away essential oil, samples and literature) and finally, the Savvy Minerals Makeup Kit (1 Foundation, 1 Blush, 3 Eyeshadows, 1 Lipgloss, Misting Spray, Foundation Brush, 5mL bottle of Lavender and literature).

Hit continue. Your next prompt will ask if you want to enroll in Essential Rewards. This is your monthly wellness box that you can customize each and every month. Select additional products you want and hit next. Fill out all the personal and billing information, and you’re finished! That simple. Then we will shower you in the amazing incentives offered today only, invite you to join our amazing Facebook community groups and welcome you with arms wide open.

So do it. Join us on this oily journey. We will be so happy you did, and so will you!


40 Days – Day 12

The enemy of character.


We all have one. The ego can be a very positive thing — or a very negative thing. God has a purpose for each of us, and because of that purpose, he has given us an ego. That inner voice that drives our purpose and passion. But sometimes, if we get too caught up in that ego, it can drive us to make very poor decisions.

Matthew Kelly states, “The number one way we reject reality is by placing ourselves at the center of the universe. And we all do it. We do it for moments. We do it for days, weeks, months, years. I see it with the kids. I see it with my own children. I see that there are stages in their development when they are clearly, firmly, and absolutely convinced that they are the center of the universe. Now, obviously they’re not able to articulate that, but the way they behave indicates that is the belief, that is the worldview, that they are operating out of.

Most people grow out of it, but I think an increasing number of people in our culture don’t grow out of it. And so, I guess part of the question is, “Who or what is at the center of your universe?” And it’s a question worth thinking about often, because I think that logically and intellectually and philosophically we can say, “Oh yeah, God is at the center of the universe,” and, “God is at the center of my universe,” or, “God is at the center of my life.” But it’s amazing how quickly we can displace him. It’s amazing how quickly, in different situations on different days, we can displace God from being at the center of our lives and be unaware of it.”

I wholeheartedly agree. I see it every day with my two year old and five year old. I saw it every day in the high school classroom. And unfortunately, I see it far too often in adults. Too many people have placed themselves at the center of the universe (in their minds) and don’t care about how their actions and words can devastate those around them. Too many people are so wrapped up in how others perceive them physically or socially, that they don’t care if people think they have poor character.

There have been moments (too many to recollect) that I have pushed away and decided to take on the universe all by myself. Do you know how well that worked out for me? It wasn’t until I came back to reality and realized that unless I gave myself 100% to Him, nothing else would fall into place.

Focus: We are not the center of the universe. If you try to place yourself there, you will set yourself up for disappointment and frustration.

Act: Look at your actions during the last 24 hours. When did you choose your authentic self, and when did you choose your ego? I’m going to add–what makes you allow your ego to take over? What are those characteristics that take away from your virtue and character? What causes these to overtake your mind? How can you stop that?


I’m thankful when friends expose me to new things. It is fun, it is exciting, and it is an extra bonus when it is super healthy for me.


Over a year ago, a dear friend introduced me to Ningxia and Thieves by Young Living. And I am so full of GRATITUDE to have those products in my daily life because they help me to promote wellness in my house.

This fall, another dear friend introduced me to Kombucha. My first thought was vinegar? Ugh, no thanks. But, I swallowed my pride and tried it. And my tummy felt AMAZING. (Want to learn what Kombucha is? You can go check out what Dr. Axe has to say about it here.) But to summarize what he says it can do for you and your body: helps prevent a variety of diseases, supports a healthy gut, can improve mental health, protects the lungs, antibacterial, helps manage diabetes, is beneficial to the cardiovascular system and helps maintain a healthy liver. Can we say WIN???

Greens are always good for you: they help promote your immune system, can aid in weight loss, can aid in fighting disease and illness, helps to provide more energy, helps to boost creativity and clear the mind and improve appearance. You can read more about greens and their benefits here. I’m thankful for my parents teaching me to appreciate the health benefits of greens at a very early age.

So go out and take a minute to sit down and examine yourself. Where does your PRIDE prohibit you? Where does your true self boost you? What do you do to help yourself? And finally…

What does your JOY and GRATITUDE look like today?