So, every one of us is on a journey of some form or another. Maybe you're trying to crush all the goals and reach your highest potential. Maybe your journey is learning to be a spouse or a parent. Maybe you just feel the need to sit back and focus on yourself. Not a single journey is wrong--it's yours and you own it.

My personal journey at the moment is trying to invest my time in personal development every single day. Often, I read a book or do activities (journal, yoga, meditation, prayer...) that help me to improve my relationships with other people and improve my relationship with God. I started this very intentional journey on May 1 and I have seen huge improvements in my family, friends and business.

So I read. I journal. I pray. I attend workshops. I reach out to those that are more in tune with the Universe than I am. I seek knowledge and improvement.

And the one thing I keep seeing come up is "Stop Telling Yourself Lies."


My first reaction was, "I'm not lying to myself." Ummmm...

Ok. That right there is a straight up lie. So bam. Maybe all these gurus are onto something?

In a previous blog post I talked about the book, "Girl, Wash Your Face" by Rachel Hollis. If you haven't, click the link and go buy the book. NOW. 1,2,3,4,5 BUY! No excuses. Because the book is amazing. I'm actually re-reading it right now I love it that much.


Anywho--in the book, Rachel talks about 20 lies we tell ourselves and how to squash them. I'm not going to go over all 20 lies here--you can learn all the goodness when you read the book.

But I am going to talk about a few of a minute.

But first-let's talk about the one you probably tell yourself WAY TOO MUCH.

"I can't."

When I was teaching, those two words could make my eye twitch like no other. No, my friend. It's not that you can't. It's that you WON'T.

"I can't afford that." --you won't make a sacrifice to make it happen.

"I can't do that." -you won't take the effort; you are letting your fear of failure block you. (and in order to succeed you have to learn to fail)

"I can't accomplish this goal." -you won't set up an action plan using baby steps to reach the big goal.


I could go on for days about this. So--first thing first. Stop with that lie.

Because you CAN.

Other lies:

  • Something else will make me happy
  • I'll Start Tomorrow
  • I'm not good enough as a...(you fill in the blank-wife, mom, friend, entrepreneur...)
  • I will never get past this

Oh the lies we weave and convince ourselves to be truth. It hurts my heart.

Because they are LIES. And we are so much better than that. So join me. Stop with the lies. Read all the books, do daily reflections, set those goals and kill them.

It takes some digging to find them, those lies. We've incorporated them into our daily thinking and convinced ourselves they are nuggets of truth. And we must stop doing that. What are the lies you tell yourself and how will you retrain your way of thinking to no longer believe them? I'll start:

  • LIE: I'm not good enough. TRUTH: I am a good wife/mom/businesswoman
  • LIE: I don't have the time to be a good friend. TRUTH: I am a good friend--I love to pour into my friends. Start small--send a text. The Universe will see you and love you.
  • LIE: I will never make it to my desired place in my company. TRUTH: I can (and will) achieve my business goals.
  • LIE: I can't start today--it will just have to wait for tomorrow. TRUTH: I will start now. I will not hold back.
  • LIE: Failure means I can't do it. TRUTH: I will get past my fears and failures and learn from them.
  • LIE: I will always be the same. It's ingrained in me. TRUTH: I will grow so big and love so big and I don't always have to be what I thought I was.
  • LIE: I need to fit into society. TRUTH: I don't have to be conventional and fit into everyone else's mold. I am me--and I love who I am.
  • LIE: I can't really touch 1000s of people--I'm plain Jane. TRUTH: I am me and I love who that is. I love to pour into others and help them accomplish their goals of fulfillment and wellness.


Written by Shay Rafferty
I help families shift to living live a life of wellness and abundance by using natural, plant-based products.