So last week we talked about emotions and how simple they really are. Remember, our bodies create emotions to simply meet a need.
So, why don’t they seem that simple? I don’t know about you, but sometimes my emotions can take a simple event and turn it into a bonafide disaster.
It’s because if we don’t meet our needs, we leave an event unresolved. Not resolving a need, in this case, an emotion, causes an imbalance in our system.
So let’s talk about emotional imbalance.
Feelings, pleasant or unpleasant ones, are not what causes us to fall into a cycle of emotional imbalance. The failure to resolve the feeling, the fact that we still hold on to that feeling long after the event has passed, this is what causes the imbalance.
Let’s look at it like this. A little girl is raised being told she will never amount to anything. She cannot do this big world alone, she’s helpless. She hears this her entire life. At first, she may feel sad when she hears these words, but eventually, she files it away and let’s the words send a reminder to that file in her brain. She doesn’t address these words, doesn’t talk it out with someone, doesn’t resolve the emotions these words cause. She just files it away. She may develop resentment, fear, distrust or other personality tendencies to protect herself.
It is important at this point to remember the emotional cycle we discussed last week.
Pain rises to emotional expression, which produces a response that leads to a resolution. When this cycle is interrupted, we develop unresolved memories that can produce problems down the road.
Positive resolutions lead to positive self-images.
Negative or incomplete resolutions lead to negative self-images.
We are made to learn from our experiences. They make us who we are. As we grow, we develop beliefs based on our experiences and whether the cycle of emotion was resolved.
The beliefs may be positive, they may be negative.
“People don’t like me”
“I am ok”
“I can express who I am”
These beliefs, that eventually become definitions we believe of ourselves, our called self-definitions. The sum of our self-definitions create our “self-image.”
Your self-image largely determines what you BELIEVE you will accomplish in your lifetime. And, if you have allowed negative belief after negative belief define who you are, you are limiting what you can become.
But there is WONDERFUL news about this. There are ways to reprogram your belief system, to re-shape your subconscious beliefs and remove that limiting factor from what you can accomplish.
In the next couple of weeks we will discuss how this can be accomplished in further detail.
In the meantime, sit down, grab a piece of paper and draw two columns. Label one column positive and the other column negative.
Close your eyes, think about yourself and listen to that voice. Write down every belief that comes into your head and file it under the appropriate column.
That will give you an idea about what you are working with when it comes time to retrain your brain and its beliefs.
Comment below DONE and check back next week for the next post.
Source: The Aroma Freedom Technique, 2nd Edition, Dr. Benjamin Perkus
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