This is something we have a huge issue with at my house. We are all hot heads (well, everyone but Tyson, because he’s just awesome). We all too often react to situations rather than take a step back and let the moment sink in.
Today’s message is about just THAT. Are we really striving to become the best-version-of-ourselves when we are being reactive rather than responsive? There is a huge difference.
“I think there’s a real distinction between responding and reacting, you know? And of course, animals react. Something happens to an animal and an animal just reacts, because animals are not responsible. What does that mean? They’re not response-able. They’re not capable of response. They’re not able to respond. The way they’re made, the way they were created . . . They react. Whereas human beings . . . We’re responsible. We’re response-able. We’re able to respond. We’re capable of response. But very often we just react to things.” -Matthew Kelly
Take that in. Really read those words. Are YOU reactive or responsive? One of my goals this Lent is to become more respond-able and less reactive. Encourage my boys to take a step back and think through situations before I just BLOW up at them. Learning to respond helps you to grow in virtue and character, helps you to become the best-version-of-yourself.
And if you’re sitting there thinking to yourself as you’re reading this, “there is no way. I’ve just been hard wired with a short fuse.” Remember this: People don’t have bad tempers; they have badly trained tempers. And you CAN train your brain new tricks.
Become a master of your temper. When things do not go as you would like them to, pause before reacting. Breathe deeply. Remind yourself that in the grand scheme of human history, this is just one moment. And walk away from the situation to collect yourself if necessary. Remember–to live in the PRESENT.
Repeat this 30 times a day if you have to. But grow. You’ll be so happy you did. “Jesus, let me be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger, for the anger of man does not work the righteousness of God. (James 1:19–20)”
Day 23: JOY and GRATITUDE
Since as long as I can remember, I have been obsessed with all things astrology/numerology/card readings, etc. I think the obsession began with the song by 5th Dimension “Age of Aquarius.” (My mother was a product of the 60s/70s so I got to listen to all that starting at a very early age). I am an aquarius and I was obsessed with the fact that they made a whole song about it. So of course (because I love to learn), I dove in to learn all about aquarius.
I have a tendency to go in and out of my studies of these things, for various reasons. When I was younger it was because people actually told me it was close to witchcraft (gasp). When I became older, it was because I had to prioritize what I was doing, and often that study just fell to the wayside. But I’ve always been fascinated.
So, I really find joy in these studies. And I truly believe this is not witchcraft or going against God. In fact, I think it is the complete opposite. I think it is a way to connect to the Universe He created and helping to decipher his ultimate plans for me.
On Saturday, March 17 we will be going through a new moon. The new moon affords us a time to bring balance to our entire system: body, mind and spirit. During the new moon phase, we are able to see more clearly–and to find areas that are off balance and to set intentions for where we want to be. BALANCE.
In “A Workbook By Spirit Daughter” the new moon is discussed. This particular new moon is in Pisces. Pisces is pure bliss. She flows through the rhythm of life and can teach us how to do the same. This season is a time to align with her boundless energy and realize that YOU are boundless.
It’s time to receive what you are set to receive. The key to receiving is LETTING GO. Let go of the negative energy that is holding you back and open your heart to what your DREAMS are–and get those dreams!!
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This week, in preparation for the new moon, complete the following tasks:
- Where can you let go of control?
- In what situations can you become the observer instead of the doer?
- When do you feel the most calm? How can you cultivate that feeling in more situations?
- What wounds have become, or will become, your greatest power?
- What is your dream? Think about it –and create a scene in your mind. What would you be doing RIGHT NOW if your dream was to come to fruition? No limits, as much detail as possible.
- Plant your intentions. Write them in present tense “I am a successful entrepreneur,” “My son is healthy, happy and confident,” etc.
Be authentically you–and the Universe will put everything else into place.